Hints for your prayer life

Ecclesiastes 4:9 says, “Two are better than one.” That’s why I encourage you to find at least one steady prayer partner and arrange to meet regularly for prayer. If you’re married, your spouse is the most obvious choice.

If you’re not married, I recommend choosing a prayer partner of the same gender, since prayer is something deeply intimate. 

Set a fixed time when you meet to pray - either in person or online. Find a rhythm that fits your current life situation, such as once a week or every two weeks. A prayer partnership can also involve more than two people, but it shouldn’t become too large if you want to maintain openness. Otherwise, prayer may quickly become formal and impersonal. 

Another hint: seek out role models - either from your personal surroundings or by reading biographies. Many of us learn to pray more thoroughly or intentionally through the example of others. We don’t need to imitate anyone, but observing the prayer life of others can help us reflect on and grow in our own.  

Personally, I’ve been deeply blessed and inspired by the biography of Bakht Singh and the book “David Brainerd: A Young Prayer Warrior Who Took God at His Word.” Pay attention to the content, depth, passion, and anointing of your role models’ prayers - but don’t just copy them. God is leading you on your own unique path. 

M.K.